Thursday, February 21, 2013

Retirement

For a number of years I've been thinking of retirement.  When should I retire?  What will I do when I retire?  I can't wait to retire.
 

When I turned 60, I went into Pastor's office and told him that in 2 years, I would be able to collect social security.  Well, 62 came and went, and I kept working but still thinking and dreaming of retiring.  I was thinking things like, "I'd just love to be home every day with no responsibilities and nothing to do."  It sounds kind of selfish, doesn't it?  And realistically, would I be happy if I had nothing to do?

Well, my thoughts have been taking a different turn recently.  The Lord has been leading me to reading material that challenged me in my journey. One of those was a book entitled, Mary Slessor of Calabar: Pioneer Missionary.  What an amazing woman she was.  What impressed me as I read Mary's story was how determined she was to keep working in spite of the way she felt.  She was often ill with fever and other tropical diseases but she felt the call of God to continue the work He had led her to.  Even at the end of her life when she was no longer able to walk, she had men carry her to the villages where she taught the natives about God and the Bible. 


Mary's example really ministered to me.  Here I am in a comfortable job, requiring little of me other than getting up every morning, driving 1 mile, working with people who love me and God.  Granted I am not Mary and I should not beat myself up because I'm not "suffering for Jesus" and my life isn't as difficult as hers.  However, I couldn't help but think that this life is a prelude to the next.  What am I doing to get ready?  Why do I think I need to retire now when I'll have all of eternity to rest and enjoy life in heaven.

re·tire·ment
/riˈtīrmənt/
Noun
  1. The action or fact of leaving one's job and ceasing to work.
  2. The period of one's life after leaving one's job and ceasing to work.
Synonyms
retreat - seclusion - withdrawal - superannuation

I'm not crazy about the synonyms of retirement, especially the "seclusion" and "withdrawal" ones.  Do I really want to withdraw and become a hermit?  I can't imagine that.

Then, too, I've been reading and journaling for my devotionals this year from Oswald Chamber's My Utmost for His Highest.  Some of the thoughts:

My life is not my own.  I have been bought with a price.  I did not choose Jesus, but He chose me and appointed me to the task He has given me.

 Do I bring God into my plans?  I love to organize and administrate, but do I consult Him and trust Him if my plans don't go as expected?

Do I serve the Lord by doing it my way or do I listen to His voice and wait for His instruction?

Am I recklessly abandoned, totally surrendered and separated by God for one purpose?  To proclaim the gospel of God?  (Romans 9:3)

Do I ask God for petty personal things that have to do with my comfort and nothing to do with the furtherance of the gospel?

Am I ready to be poured out as a drink offering?  Philippians 2:7.  Am I willing to be poured out, used up, spent, not seeking to be ministered to, but to minister?  This reminds me of the old hymn:

Must I be carried to the skies
On flowery beds of ease,
While others fought to win the prize
and sailed through bloody seas?

Oh I must fight if I would reign
Increase my courage, Lord.
I'll bear the toil, endure the pain
Supported by Thy Word.

In the face of persecution, the early Christians did not pray for comfort and safety, they prayed for courage!  See Acts 4:29.

My life of service is the way I say thank you to God for His inexpressibly wonderful salvation.

Do I allow God to be the source of all my dreams, joys and delights?


On Sunday we sang a Robin Mark song:  Jesus, All for Jesus.  As I'm singing it, I'm asking myself, do I really mean what I'm singing? 

Jesus, all for Jesus,
All I am and have and ever hope to be.
Jesus, all for Jesus,
All I am and have and ever hope to be.

All of my ambitions, hopes and plans
I surrender these into Your hands.
All of my ambitions, hopes and plans
I surrender these into Your hands.

For it's only in Your will that I am free,
For it's only in Your will that I am free,
Jesus, all for Jesus,
All I am and have and ever hope to be.

I'm not my own, I've been bought with a price. I want to want what God wants.  His way is best and He does what is best for me.  It's only in His will that I am truly free and happy.

He has given me the gifts that I need for the job He has given me.  How can I think of not using those gifts for Him when they help the body of Christ and bring me fulfillment and joy?

So until God shows me clearly that I need to stop working, I will keep on keeping on.  Lord, help me.  I live in a culture that needs to know.  If I have a question about anything, the answer is mine as soon as I type "google."  But God doesn't operate that way.  He wants me to trust Him enough to wait.  I love the verse in Isaiah 64:4:  "God...who acts on behalf of those who wait for Him."  He knows the end from the beginning and His ways are best.  I can trust Him with my life and future.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Our Other Kids

A couple of years ago, Dawn was talking to a single friend who commented that there were activities and groups for the college age singles, seniors, and families.  This person was feeling somewhat left out because she was an older single and didn't know where she fit.  Dawn mentioned that she knew a number of people in that category.  Because of that conversation, God gave Andy and me a concern for this group of people and we talked about this need at our church staff meeting.  All the pastors were already busy with ministry, including us.  Everyone also agreed there was a need but no one was sure what to do about it.  Well, after praying about it, Andy and I decided to get involved and host an initial meeting to try to determine if there was enough of an interest to begin a ministry to older singles.

Initially, we had about 5 or 6 women in their late 30's and early 40's who attended.  We started with a game night, then began meeting every other Sunday night at our house for Bible study and fellowship.  Word started getting out and we actually had a couple of women in their 50's who begged us to let them come, too!  So we did.  At first, we just served some refreshments in the form of snacks.

Then the Lord laid it on my heart to start serving dinner to whoever came to our evening meetings.  We opened up our dining room table to as large as it would go and bought 2 more 8 foot tables. We can actually seat 18 comfortably around the table in the dining room.  I feel this is very important for these dear singles to experience a home cooked meal - family style.  It has made a huge difference, adding to the feeling of love, acceptance and connection we all feel for one another.  Some of these singles are divorced and these are especially in need of a warm and loving home atmosphere.  Some have not had good moms and dads either, and we count it a privilege that God has blessed us with more "kids."  Of course, with parenthood comes responsibility and involvement and we've had to have some hard discussions, but everyone has been receptive and respectful toward us and each other.

We try to plan fun times as well as our evenings of Bible study.  We have had game nights at our house, outings for miniature golfing and bowling and picnics in the park.  Our "kids" have enjoyed making new friends.  They will say things like:  "a year ago, I was so lonely.  I came to this church not knowing anyone.  But now I have lots of friends;"  "I've been to lots of churches looking for a group like this, but never found one till now."

How good of God to hear the cries of the lonely and broken hearted.  He promises in His Word that He does this and He is faithful to carry out His promises.  He has not only blessed our "kids," but we are receiving blessings, too.  It's a privilege to see God at work in the hearts of those we love, encouraging them, maturing them and watching them reach out to help others. We can echo John in his 3rd letter:  "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth."

We started out with 5 women in our group, but we have grown to 49 (on our distribution list) women and men.  Not everyone comes every time, which would be a problem if they did.  We're not sure where we go from here.  Our house will only hold so many and parking is an issue, too.  But this is God's ministry and we will trust Him to continue it in His way.  We have discussed building another addition (joking!) or a barn/large shed, but we're just not sure at this point.  We're waiting on direction from the Lord.  This is His ministry and I'm sure He'll provide.

Sunday, February 10, 2013

February Birthdays

There are lots of advantages to having a large family, one of which is there is always a birthday or 2 or 3 to celebrate.  Christmas is no sooner over than it is time to think about birthday presents.  There happen to be a lot of birthdays in January, February and March.  So let's get together and party!

Asher's is January 31st so Andy and I went up to their house on Tuesday, the 29th.  We had a good time visiting and spending time together before dinner.  Christy makes the best pizza!  And instead of birthday cake, she had made an out-of-this-world delicious chocolate banana cream pie!  Asher was excited to blow out his 5 candles!


And he loved the nerf gun we gave him.  We didn't see him the rest of the evening because he was so busy shooting it.

There are 3 birthdays in February:  Dawn's, Christy's and mine.  So we planned a party at our house on Saturday, Feb. 9th.  The forecast was calling for snow on Friday night, but we weren't sure how much we were going to get.  New England got a lot of snow, but we were on the edge and when we woke up on Saturday morning, we had only gotten about 4 inches.  I was concerned that someone might not want to risk the trip.  But the sun was shining and even though it was still cold, the roads were clear by the time everyone needed to be on the road.

I made 2 kinds of soup, chicken noodle and tomato based barley.  Amy brought a delicious sandwich casserole dish (that I must get the recipe for), Christy brought a salad, and Dawn brought the carrot cake and dessert.  Wow!  So much food and everything was outstanding.

 It was a house full of people and kids (and 2 dogs, too!).  The kids were so excited to be together and Andy and Tommy helped in that excitement.  They were chasing each other through the house and screaming until someone got the brilliant idea to let them watch a movie.
 

It's so nice that they enjoy being together.

So here is my haul.  Amy made these beautiful placemats for me - perfect for the Valentine's theme this month.  Christy gave me 2 books that I hadn't read yet and Dawn gave me a gift card to Chipotle.

We had our meal at lunch time and Andy's mom and dad joined us for that.  And after our meal, we started planning our next party.  Grace's birthday is in March, Aiden's in April, Andy's in May, and Naomi, Chase & Joanna are in June.  Birthdays are a wonderful way to remember how grateful we are for each person represented and how God has blessed our family.

Monday, February 4, 2013

Never too old

It’s official.  I’m a university student.  I like to think I’m a life-long student – there are always opportunities for learning.  But life learning is not usually a classroom with a professor and taking tests on what’s been taught. 

So 39 years after my college classmates graduated, I’m hoping to get my diploma in May.  I only needed 5 credits to graduate – so close.  Who knew?

Tommy encouraged me to do the investigation on what it would take to graduate.  It took a while for them to find my transcripts (they must have been saved in some old dark-ages vault!). But after they did and blew off all the dust, it didn’t take that much more effort to figure out what was still required of me.

On Saturday, I went to orientation at Cairn University where incoming students were served a delicious breakfast, heard a speech from the provost and another from the director of the degree completion program.  Then a lot of time was spent giving instruction on how to do e-learning. 

This is the 21st century and this experience will be a lot different from when I went to school.  Actually, I think it will be a lot easier.  I remember typing papers up on a typewriter and miscalculating how much room to leave for footnotes.  Then the whole page needed to be retyped.  It was really an exercise in patience and diligence to write a paper in those days.  I do not have fond memories of that.  Now we have computers which will help immensely. 

My first class begins on Feb. 23 and runs for 5 weeks – Saturdays from 9:00 – 1:00.  Then I’ll get a week off before beginning my second class which will be done in time for me to graduate in May.

So the bill has been paid, I've got my t-shirt and I'm ready to go.  




Sunday, January 20, 2013

January Jaunt

January is always a good time to get away, especially if it's to someplace warm.  So for the last number of years, we have scheduled it in as a reward for making it through the holidays and Nativity and to celebrate our anniversary.

Going someplace warm is harder to do since we buy our airline tickets using points we've accumulated on our Southwest card.  Southwest Airlines only flies in the continental U.S.  Some January vacations have been big successes, but a couple have been less than we expected.  Not that they were duds or we would have wished we hadn't done them, just that they weren't what we expected.  For instance, who would have anticipated running into a week of rain in Death Valley, CA, that turned into a blizzard as we drove out of it?  Or who would have expected Tucson, AZ to be in the middle of a cold spell in January?  It was ironic that as we left here on Monday, the weather was warm and in the 60's (!), but as we flew into Tucson, it was cold and in the 30's.

But that's ok, we still had a good time and the weather got warmer as the week progressed.  Besides, the sun was shining brightly and the sky was a brilliant blue the whole time we were there.  That alone was worth the trip, because when we got back we discovered that it had been gray and gloomy here all week.

So we scheduled 2 days for travel and 3 days for exploring Tucson.  We managed to cross off another National Park from our "bucket list," as well as fit in quite a few other things.

Our flight out of Philadelphia was delayed on Monday due to fog.  We actually didn't leave until 12:15 pm which caused us to miss our connecting flight in Chicago.  And that caused us to get into Tucson pretty late.  It was a looooong flight and I was exhausted.  When we got to our hotel, I lost no time in getting ready for bed.  Andy mentioned that there was a puddle in the bathroom, then went out to the car to check on something.  While he was gone, I got into my pj's and into bed.  When he got back, he said, "We're moving to another room."  Ugh!  I was so cozy under the covers and just wanted to get to sleep, but I packed everything up again, put my coat on over my pj's and went to the other room. 

After a very good night's sleep, we started Tuesday off ready for the day's adventure.  Our first stop was Biosphere 2.  This was a man made, all indoor experiment.  Eight people lived in this biosphere for 2 years, taking nothing in or out of it in all that time.  We toured with a guide and about 20 other people and learned some interesting things about this experiment.  It is still operational today as a learning and experiment center, but under the University of Arizona.

Doesn't it look other-worldly?



This is supposed to be the ocean...it's salt water, 22 feet deep at the farther end with imitation waves.
 

This is their jungle.  It was 100% humidity in there, very stuffy, but authentically like a jungle.

 The structure of the building was fascinating, with all these panes of glass.  It cost millions of dollars to build and maintain.

We spent the morning at Biosphere, then left for our next adventure, Catalina State Park.  State parks are usually as rewarding as national parks, and this one was no exception.  We saw lots of saguaro cactus plants with very nice hiking trails.  It was cold, but sunny and very blue sky.

Saguaro (pronounced:  sah-WAH-row - the "g" is silent)




This particular cactus is huge as you can see by us standing next to it.  They can live to be up to 200 years old.  They don't grow branches until they're around 50 years old.  And they're home to all kinds of desert birds.  It's a very interesting plant and we learned many fascinating facts about it:
1.  The saguaro blossom is Arizona's state flower.
2.  Saguaros must start life under a tree or shrub to protect them from drying out and be hidden from herbivores.  Saguaros often outlive their "nurse" plants.
3.  Saguaros grow slowly.  In the most favorable conditions it may take 35 years for a plant to reach 6 feet; more commonly it takes 47-67 years.
4.  Saguaros can grow to 50 feet tall and are the largest of the cactus family in the U.S. (though not in the world).
5.  Saguaro tissue may be 85% water; a large plant may weigh 8 tons or more!
6.  Saguaro branches always grow upward.  Occasionally frost or snow will freeze the tissue at the base of a limb and damage it, and the weight of the branch pulls it down.  If the branch survives, the growing tip will turn upward again.

The Saguaro National Park is part of the Sonoran Desert which extends from Mexico through Arizona and includes the southeastern tip of California. This desert is unique, though, in that it has 2 "rainy" seasons.  It is still pretty arid, but the plants that grow here are perfectly suited to the arid climate.  And there are some streams here and there.  It was easy to cross them at this time of year, but I'm sure when it rains, those rocks are covered and it would be impossible to hike this trail then.



After this hike, we still had a lot of daylight left, so we drove to see the San Xavier Mission.  It looks like a white dove sitting out there in the desert.  The mission was built for the Indians by Franciscans in the 1700s and is one of the finest examples of Spanish mission architecture in the U.S.  It is a beautiful building, inside and out.  Our inside pictures didn't turn out and are unusable, but it was very detailed and ornate with statues, icons and beautiful art work.


 


On Wednesday, we started our day by going to the western section of Saguaro National Park.  The park is actually in 2 parts, on either side of the city of Tucson.  When we got to the park, I couldn't find my senior pass, so we bought another one.  It was a compliment to my ego that I had to show id to prove I was old enough to have a senior pass!  The pass is only $10 and will then get you into any national park the rest of your life (if you don't lose the pass!).  Usually admission to each individual park is $20, so it's quite a deal!  Sometime it pays to be old!!!

We watched a slide show about the park with beautiful pictures and interesting dialog.  One phrase that really stuck out to us was:  "The desert is you and you are the desert!"  Huh?  We didn't really do anything else there that day, but drove on to the Desert Museum.  That was definitely worth the price of admission (no, that was not a national park so my senior pass could not be used there).  We explored this museum for about 4 hours.  There were many trails that went by different displays.

There was a hummingbird house (look closely)


a cat canyon (pumas, bobcats, mountain lions),


 
Mountain Goats,


prairie dog city, javelinas, coyotes, etc.

We sat in on a demonstration/lecture on a gila monster and a rattlesnake - very well done.
 
 And a free flight raptor demonstration was done with a gray hawk, barn owl and 4 Harris hawks.  Those birds were incredibly accurate and a joy to watch in action.
 


This museum occupies 40 acres and every inch is interesting.  It was more like an oasis than a desert, although the plants were certainly suited to desert living and unusual to what we are used to in the east.




 From there we stopped in at Old Tucson studios, but decided not to stay and explore.  It seemed like it would have been a museum of old movie sets with lots of John Wayne and cowboy memorabilia.  We were more interested in the outdoors and nature this trip.

There was still time left in the day so our last stop of the day was at the International Wildlife Museum.  Now that was a very interesting museum to explore.  Different rooms were devoted to various parts of the world with animals from all over the world.  They were stuffed:  hippos, rhinos, giraffes, alligators, bears, all kinds and varieties of deer, moose, caribou, etc. - all life size.  We didn't take any pictures in there.  I don't know why!

One more day and a lot to fit in...Tombstone, Arizona!  It was about a 45 minute drive to Tombstone from Tucson, but we had heard it was well worth going to see.  So off we went.  That is a town with a colorful history.  Nearly every house was a museum.  We took a trolley ride and the driver/tour guide was very knowledgeable of the town and its history.  Back in the late 1800s and early 1900s, it was a booming mining town which drew all kinds of interesting characters.  It was a decadent, wicked city that drew all kinds of lawlessness.  Our tour guide told us a story of one man who shot his wife, then shot another man because he wanted that man's wife, which he then married.  I doubt that second wife had much to say about it for fear of being shot herself!  The Earp brothers and Doc Holliday were famous law men in Tombstone and several movies were made about them and their gunfight at the O.K. Corral.

Not all was bad about the town, though.  One of the houses we walked through had been owned by a family who boasts the world's largest rose tree.  It started out as a tiny slip from Scotland in 1885.  It was planted in a young couple's yard and continued to grow.  The husband built supports for the bush until today it spreads over 8,000 square feet of supports and continues to grow larger each year.



We were able to take in a "show" as part of our trolley tour.  Three actors acting like good guys and bad guys.




That was fun and we could have stayed in Tombstone all day.  There was more to see and do, but we still wanted to go back to Saguaro National Park before heading home the next day.

We drove the 8 mile loop through the park, then got out and hiked another loop trail.  The weather was finally warm - nearly 60 - a beautiful day.

 

This is a funny picture.  It not only gives good perspective to how big these cacti are, but looks like it's growing out of my head!  How do you like my hat?


God's creation is so amazing.  It's hard to understand how the park workers can talk about the diversity and marvels of the surrounding environment, then attribute it all to evolution.  Just once I'd like to hear one of them say:  "In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth!"

It was a wonderful time away, enjoying a break from work and the routine of life and soaking in God's wonderful world.

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Christmas Chronicles

It was a very busy holiday season.  So busy, in fact, that Andy and I are quite exhausted and are now battling bad colds.  Andy had a bad cough first, but thought it was only allergies.  Unfortunately for me, he was wrong and I caught it, too.  Too much partying, I guess!

So to chronicle our doings since last post:

Saturday, Dec. 22 - our nephew, Mark got married in North East, MD and we went to witness the happy event.  All my brothers and sisters and my mother were there so it was somewhat of a reunion.

Sunday, Dec. 23 - Church in the morning, relax in the afternoon and evening.

Monday, Dec. 24 - We worked in the office all day.  I had my regular Monday work (cleaning up from Sunday) as well as preparing for the Christmas Eve service and trying to work ahead because of the holiday.  I didn't go home at all that day till after the second Christmas Eve service.  (Pastors and wives have to attend both the 5:00 & 7:00 Christmas Eve services because they give us our Christmas bonus then.)

Tuesday, Dec. 25 - Christmas Day - Andy and I decided to go hiking since it was a crisp clear day.  We went down to Pakim Pond in Wharton State Forest.  Because of all the pines, the forest still had plenty of green which is quite pretty against the blue sky.


so peaceful and serene


Wednesday, Dec. 26 - Took this day as our holiday and went to breakfast with Andy's Mom & Dad at their favorite coffee shop.

Thursday & Friday, Dec. 27 & 28 - worked in the office extra hours to make up for the holiday.

Saturday, Dec. 29 - our anniversary - 39 wonderful years.  What better way to celebrate than to have all our kids and grandkids over!  Amy & Ricky willingly went and got my mother so she could join us for the day.  We had a Christmas Brunch with French toast casserole, baked oatmeal, salmon quiche, bacon wrapped sausages and of course, lots of munchies:  fruit and dip, crackers and cheese ball, veggies and dip.

Another little helper


After the brunch we opened our presents.  I think the kids were happy with what they got!
waiting patiently

My Little Pony barn was a big hit!






Sunday, Dec. 30 - Went to church in the morning, home for our usual Sunday lunch of waffles and omelets, then took Mother home.  When we got there, I helped her take down her tree and made her pictures scroll on her computer.  Andy shoveled her walk because they had snow in PA.  We got nothing but rain here in Jersey.


Monday, Dec. 31 - worked all day, tried to work ahead because of taking off for New Year's Day.  We were invited to join our singles friends for a New Year's Eve party with dinner and games.  We had our coats on and were walking out the door, when we looked at each other and wondered what we were doing going out because we both were so exhausted and Andy wasn't feeling well, either.  So we turned around and hung out at home and went to bed early.  A great way to ring in the new year, by the way!

Tuesday, Jan 1, 2013 - We went up to C & C 's so Andy could help Christian put in a new ceiling in their kitchen.  It was hard work but they got a lot accomplished.  I had fun visiting with Christy and reading to the kids.

Wednesday, Jan. 2 - went grocery shopping first thing in the morning, then over to Dawn's by 11:00 to babysit Kira while Dawn went for her surgery.  She didn't get home till 4:00, then the doctor didn't want her to be alone, so Andy came over and we ate with her and Kira and left afterwards.  The doctors are very hopeful and think their surgery was wildly successful this time.

Thursday, Jan. 3 - I went to work but didn't feel well all day.  I had so much to do but was able to accomplish much.  By evening, though, I had a super-duper sore throat.  I took some fermented cod liver oil that Dawn had given me and believe it or not, the next day, my sore throat was better.

However, I still don't feel very well.  I'm congested and have a fever of 100.4 degrees tonight (Saturday).

I guess all this activity was too much for me.  Well, it was a lot of fun while it lasted.  So now I have to deal with reality.  Ugh!