Saturday, January 25, 2014

Aloha

We just got back from Hawaii and it really is as beautiful as everyone says it is.  Now we know because we have experienced it ourselves.  We have made a lot of wonderful trips and this one was one of the best.

Here is a recap for anyone who's interested.

January 10
We made it to California, a long flight.  Our plane was delayed out of Philadelphia because it had to be de-iced.  I was worried they would cancel the flight because of the freezing rain, but we finally were cleared to take off.  We only had 30 minutes to change planes in Denver and because we were late, I thought we might have to stay there overnight, but the connection flight waited for us.  Thankfully.

January 11
Arrived in Hilo on the "big island" of Hawaii around 2:00 pm, picked up our rental car and took off toward the Hawaii Volcanoes National Park.


It was overcast with intermittent sprinkles, but we saw the volcano.  It was pretty awesome driving by steam vents and walking through lava tubes and seeing huge lava fields.  We hiked along a lush rain forest trail up on a cliff above the lava fields.

 

The rest of the afternoon was spent driving to Kailua-Kona where we ate dinner and spent the night.

Andy was definitely not as he used to be.  He's easily confused and asks me numerous times what we're doing.  I am doing all the driving and planning, as well as trying to figure out where we need to go at the airports, etc.  This is such a change from former trips when I just followed his lead.  But we still enjoyed being away and together.

January 12
Spent this day exploring Hawaii.  First stop:  Kaloko-Honokohau National Historical Park.  There was a great hike to the beach.  It's a volcanic island and there were fields and fields of rocks.  We were amazed, though, at the tenacity of life, ferns and plants growing out of the lava.






Next stop was Kehaha Kai State Park.  We started driving in, but the road was in terrible condition.  Andy was worried about damaging the car so we turned around and left.  The whole drive up the west coast was scenic with occasional views of the ocean.  Another stop we made was the Hapuna Beach State Recreation Area.  Because it was Sunday, there were a lot of people there.  It was a beautiful beach.  We sat for a while on the sand soaking in some sun and the beauty of the spot.  Andy waded in the water.




We had been told to check out the Waipi'o Valley Lookout, so we drove up there - worth it - wow!  We could see across to huge cliffs coming down to the beach.



Then another stop was the Akaka Falls State Park.  It looked like rain so we carried our umbrellas with us.  It was a beautiful hike through lush jungle.  It started to rain.  Up went the umbrellas.  It rained buckets and our feet and legs got soaked!  We saw a beautiful waterfall, kept walking, and saw another waterfall.  What an adventure.





January 13
Left the hotel at 5:45 am, dropped off the rental car, then waited to board the plane to Maui.  Kerby & Judy picked us up and we stopped for breakfast on the way to their house.  What a beautiful lovely place they have.  They have 2 acres of property with all kinds of beautiful trees and bushes.  Their house is built in such a way that every room opens out onto the patio surrounding the pool.  The trees on their property include lemons, tangelos, avocados, papayas, starfruit, plumeria trees (for making leis), fig trees, African tulip trees, flumago, hibiscus, red ginger, white ginger, all kinds of varieties of palms, bottlebrush trees, bougainvillea, etc.

It was a very nice restful and relaxing day, sat by the pool for a while, then up on the deck to watch the sunset, which we missed because clouds rolled in.  What a view from the house.  They're situated up on a hill with a view of the ocean.



January 14
We attempted to go to Iao Needle, but it was in the rain forest of Maui and when we got there, surprise!  It was raining!  So we didn't stay.  Then we drove down to the beach at Maalaea
Bay.  There was a boardwalk about .6 miles long that we walked along:  the Kealia Coastal Boardwalk.  We saw several ae'o (Hawaiian stilts).  The only place in the world they exist is on the island of Maui.
 


January 15
More showers put a damper on our plans, but it was nice to just relax.  In the afternoon we went out whale watching.  That was a success, saw quite a few. 




Also got caught in a shower, which fortunately didn't last long, then saw a beautiful double rainbow.

Kerby and Judy took us out to eat at a restaurant called Monkey Pod Kitchen.  Our waitress was from Haddonfield, NJ!

January 16
Drove up the Haleakala National Park.  When we started, it was nice and clear, but driving up, the clouds rolled in and we though we wouldn't be able to see anything when we got to the top, which is a little over 10,000 feet.  But when we got there, there was enough of a breeze to blow the clouds away.  We were able to see down the slopes of the volcano, cone after cone.


 
 
It's pretty barren up there, but there were these very interesting plants, called "silver swords."  This is the only place in the world that they are found.


January 17
Drove around Maui, starting out on the Hana Highway.  This is a 68 mile stretch of road along the eastern and southern shores of Maui.  That 68 miles, though, is very twisty, with hairpin curves, up and down, one lane bridges, all through very interesting terrain, like bamboo forests, rainbow eucalyptus trees, etc.  Of course, it was fun doing it with Kerby and Judy, with Kerby keeping us entertained with interesting stories and tidbits along the way.





January 18
Got up early this morning and went to the Maui Swap Market.  Found some fun things for the grandkids before heading back to Judy and Kerby's to pack up and head off to Kaua'i. 


January 19
We are fumbling along on our own after being spoiled by Kerby and Judy taking care of us.  I was feeling overwhelmed and inadequate this morning.  When we arrived last night, it was raining and dark and we were driving around not knowing where to go.  I woke up an hour before Andy so had time to pray and be ministered to by the Lord.  Jesus' command to Joshua came to my mind, where Joshua is told to "be strong, be courageous, because I will be with you."  Granted, I am not fighting the battles that Joshua would encounter, but I'm dealing with battles, nonetheless.  So when Andy woke up, we planned our day.  As we opened up our hotel door to step outside, we were greeted by sunshine and blue skies!  Yeah!  Thank you, Jesus.

We ate a hearty breakfast at a nearby cafe, then started our drive to Waimea Canyon - the grand canyon of the Pacific.  It was certainly grand and thoroughly enjoyable.




After that, we drove around, made a few more stops at interesting spots before having lunch.  All the restaurants have open windows and lots of beautiful landscaping and potted plants.  It truly is a paradise.

January 20
Drove on the east side of Kaua'i to Wailua River to take the Smith Family River Boat tour.  That was fun with Hawaiian entertainment on the way to the Fern Grotto where ferns grow upside down out of the rocky cliff.




 

It was a beautiful day with blue skies and no rain.  That is pretty amazing considering we were near the rainiest spot in the world.  The interior of the island gets 400-600 inches of rain a year!  We were told that in 1996, during a severe hurricane, it rained non-stop for 42 days straight and that year the average rainfall was 700 inches.

The rest of the day we continued driving along the eastern, then northern shorelines, stopping at beaches along the way.  The sea is so blue/green and clear.  You can see the bottom with lots of white crashing waves.  We stopped at places like:  Anahola, Kilauea, Hanalei, Anini Beach, Ha'ena State Park on the Na Pali coast.  We went to the end of the road.







January 21
Left early this morning for Honolulu on Oahu.  This island is very different from what we've seen so far.  It's the most inhabited island, with lots of people, very urban, lots of high rises and congestion.  Our first stop was to Pearl Harbor where we visited the USS Missouri Memorial.  This memorial was built right over the sunken ship.  We're glad we saw and experienced that.



When we left the memorial, we wanted to see Waikiki Beach.  Traffic downtown was horrendous.  We drove in circles for a while before finding a parking spot.  Saw the beach - it is beautiful but there were lots of people.


Ate some lunch outdoors, holding onto our stuff because there was a stiff breeze.  Then we drove to Diamond Head.




There were lots of surfers there, but we felt out of our element, very tired and had a headache, so decided to find the hotel and call it a day.

January 22
Got several texts that there was a big snow storm at home.  ha, ha - we missed it!  We were enjoying warm sun and cool breezes, wearing shorts and sandals.

Today was fun.  We found a nice little cafe for breakfast before heading out to explore Oahu.  We drove south from Honolulu, then east and north, traveling around the edge of the island, stopping at beach parks along the way:  Kuli'ou'ou, saw the blow hole,



Makapu'u Beach Park, Wainanalo, Kailua (best beach),



  

saw the Byodo-in-temple,


Kahana Bay Beach Park, Hau'ula Beach Park, stopped at the Polynesian Cultural Center (but didn't want to pay admission because we couldn't stay long), La'ie Point, Kahuku, Kawela Bay, Sunset Beach, Waimea and Waimea Falls.



Traffic on the north shore coastal road was horrendous, bumper to bumper for many miles.  The surf was especially fierce today, much higher than usual and EVERYONE was out to see it.  The coastal road is only 2 lanes and it was stop and go the whole way.  We estimated that the lines of traffic stretched for 30 miles at least.  I think everyone on the island decided to take the day off to see those gigantic waves.  And they were something to see.  The wind was so strong all day, it was blowing mist from the waves high into the air and across the road.  Cars and people were everywhere.  It took 15 minutes to drive 1-1/2 miles.  We saw all kinds of photographers and news vans.  Supposedly, this was touted as the waves of the decade, estimated at 40-50 feet high.  No one was surfing in it - it was way too dangerous.





When we got back, we decided to go to the Cheesecake Factory to eat.  My iphone got us there, but there was no where to park.  I stopped and asked a policeman what to do.  He directed us to go around the block and park in a parking garage.  So we did.  Then we had to walk to the restaurant several blocks, walking through a shopping mall on the way.  I kept trying to remember landmarks along the way, hoping we could find our way back to the parking garage.  I had to ask several people how to get to the Cheesecake Factory and we finally got there.  After all that effort, we were told it would be a 50 minute wait and it was already 6:00 pm.  So we left and ate pizza at the food court in the mall.  We did end up finding the parking garage, had to pay $4, and were also able to find the car.  It all ended ok!

January 23-24
Flew to California on Thursday, then to Philadelphia on Friday.  It's good to be home again, sleeping in our own bed and being surrounded by the familiar.

But it was a good time away.  We saw many beautiful sights.  Hawaii is truly lovely.  It was somewhat stressful at times with Andy not himself.  He was easily confused and not very helpful.  I felt out of my element at times and unsure of myself.  Overall, though, it went well.  My plans were well laid and things went as smoothly as they could, I think.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Of what does life consist?



Jesus warned in Luke 12:16:  “Watch out!  Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”  I remember seeing a bumper sticker once that said:  “He who dies with the most toys, wins.”  I couldn’t help but think:  “Wins what?”

Our American culture just feeds our bent toward covetousness.  We accumulate all kinds of gadgets that supposedly make our life easier.  I confess my kitchen is full of my own toys.  I have a Cuisinart, Vitamix, 2 coffee makers (granted, one was given to me), toaster oven, mixer, blender, Zojirushi bread maker, electric potpourri pot (to make the house smell good, of course!).   And all these are only in my kitchen.  I’m not going to attempt to catalog everything in our basement, garage, shed and other rooms in the house.

Our culture is also obsessed with youth and good health.  As I’ve been chewing on Jesus’ warning about this life and what it consists of, I’ve included in my own thinking that neither does this life consist of being obsessed with eating the right foods, always feeling good, being fit and robust. 

The indisputable point is that we all die.  Life, as we know it here on earth, eventually ceases, stops, desists.  God has given us the desire to live, to fight for life, to keep going against all odds.  But the reality is:  “Man is destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.”  (Hebrews 9:27)

So if life does not consist of the accumulation of possessions and good health, what does it consist of?  “For me to live is Christ” (Philippians 1:21) and “godliness with contentment is great gain” (1 Timothy 6:6) and “His divine goodness has given me everything I need for life and godliness” (2 Peter 1:3).

It has always fascinated me how I feel closest to God, how loved I feel, when I face the deepest, darkest experiences.  How can that be?  You’d think that because God is sovereign, I’d wonder why He permits such trials.  I believe He could and He often does ease our pain.  But He also often does not answer our pleas for healing or comfort, because He knows that when we are weak is when we run to Him.  It is amazing how present He is, how comforting His Word, how life-sustaining it is to think about God’s goodness, grace, love, mercy, presence, understanding and care for me, His child.  As Peter told Jesus (John 6:68), “Lord, to whom shall we go?  You have the words of eternal life.”

An old time song affirms that “I’d rather have Jesus than anything.”  Why?  Because nothing compares to God’s greatness.  A newer song we’ve been singing lately at church has really ministered to me, speaking of the character of God:

Forever Reign

You are good, You are good
When there's nothing good in me
You are love, You are love
On display for all to see
You are light, You are light
When the darkness closes in
You are hope, You are hope
You have covered all my sin

You are peace, You are peace
When my fear is crippling
You are true, You are true
Even in my wandering
You are joy, You are joy
You're the reason that I sing
You are life, You are life,
In You death has lost its sting

Oh, I'm running to Your arms,
I'm running to Your arms.
The riches of Your love
Will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

You are more, You are more
Than my words will ever say
You are Lord, You are Lord
All creation will proclaim
You are here, You are here
In Your presence I'm made whole
You are God, You are God
Of all else I'm letting go

Oh, I'm running to Your arms
I'm running to Your arms
The riches of Your love
Will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

My heart will sing
no other Name
Jesus, Jesus

Oh, I'm running to Your arms
I'm running to Your arms
The riches of Your love
Will always be enough

Songwriters
INGRAM, JASON / MORGAN, RUBEN

The riches of God's love will always be enough, even if everything else is taken away.

Friday, January 3, 2014

A New Year

I confess in looking back over 2013, I'm glad it's over, even though it means I'm another year older.  Sometimes getting older is worth it!  Even though the year contained difficulties, it ended on a good note.

We had our family Christmas with the girls and their families, as well as Andy's mom and dad, and my mother on New Year's Eve day, Dec. 31, 2013.  What a house-full - 20 around the table.










What a nice mess of wrappings.  I like this picture, too, because Dawn was so happy with her Eureka vacuum cleaner.  She held it lovingly all afternoon!

It was a wild and crazy day with 9 kids and 11 adults, making happy memories.  God is good and we are so blessed.

Sunday, December 29, 2013

40 years

It's been 40 years...




For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health...we've hit them all - but still together and still in love!

We wrote our own vows to each other:



Andy

Phyllis, it is my desire, with God’s help, to love you and to seek your best interests above my own, to love you even to the extent that Christ loved His church and was willing to sacrifice Himself for her.



I promise to be strong in the Lord, handling the responsibilities of being the leader of our home; and yet, to be gentle enough to care for your deepest needs.  Being the leader of our home, it is my desire, to develop oneness in every area of our lives together, not to be unreasonable or overbearing, but considerate and self-sacrificing in directing the affairs of our home.



Our marriage involves the whole of both of our beings - body, soul and spirit, and by God’s grace, I promise to strive for our unity in these three areas, making Christ the center of our lives, joint-heirs of the grace of life.



Phyllis

Andy, I love you…and I promise, that by God’s help, I will always love you in every circumstance of our life together.  It is my prayer that my love for you will continually grow deeper and become more meaningful each day of our lives; that I will give self-sacrificially of myself to you, that I will be more concerned for your welfare than for my own, and that I will be totally committed to pleasing you.



I consider it a privilege that God has chosen me to be your wife - to share the joys and sorrows of life with you.  I promise to do my best to be a comfort to you during the difficulties and to rejoice with you during the good times.  I promise to confide in you and share myself with you.  I will not only speak, but I will also listen with love and respect to what you have to say.  I want to be a loving and understanding wife and to fulfill the needs you have as a man and as a person.



My goal and objective as your wife is to follow God’s standard for marriage - that of being in submission to you as the leader of our home.  I promise to encourage and support you in the decisions you make, to be faithful to you as long as we live and to be honest with you.



Andy, before God and these witnesses, I give myself to you so that together we may serve God and others.

Andy was and is a wonderful example to me of a godly husband.  In fact, I once had a woman ask me what I thought of a guy she was dating.  She was on the fence about continuing the relationship, so I asked her:  does he treat you the way Andy treats me?  She confessed he did not, and she ended the relationship.  Andy always treats me with gentleness, kindness, care and love, encouraging me to use my gifts and abilities, and when I do, praising me and acting like I'm the best there ever was!

Our marriage isn't perfect, by any definition, because we are imperfect people, but we consider ourselves blessed to enjoy the life God has given us.

Thursday, December 26, 2013

That's What Friends are For

I usually like to have our Christmas tree up on Thanksgiving weekend, as early as possibly in order to enjoy the beauty of the lights and decorations.  But since the girls have all been married, it's been harder to be motivated to get it up.  With the kids around, it's more fun to decorate, having the company to do it together.  And this year, I was even less motivated because I wasn't sure if it was going to be an ordeal for Andy.  We have an artificial tree that needs to be put together and I didn't want it to be an exercise in frustration for him.

Well, my good friend, R. offered to come down on Sunday afternoon and help us put it up.  When I mentioned that to Andy, he immediately went to the basement and brought up the tree and put it together.  He got it together, we arranged the branches, but then between the two of us, we couldn't figure out why there was only one strand of lights that worked.  We tried different things, and I wanted to give up and wait for R to help us figure it out, but he didn't quit.  I finally found a missing cord, we plugged it in and voila!  The tree was lit.  When R arrived, she helped me decorate and we enjoyed the afternoon together.


It's my angel tree...all kinds of different angel ornaments and my friend, R was an angel to help us.

Usually, our Christmas day is spent by ourselves because all our kids are married with families of their own.  We do different things together, one year riding down to Ocean City with our bikes to ride the boardwalk.  It was a beautiful spring-like day and we made lovely memories riding on the boardwalk on Christmas Day.

This year, though, we just didn't want to spend it alone, so making sure the girls were ok with our idea, we decided to go visit each of them.  Since Dawn lives in NJ, close by, we went and visited her on Christmas Eve - day time.  We got to see the work they had done on their house recently and spend some time playing with Kira.  Kira had been moved into a new room with nice new decorations - Pink-a-licious Princess room!


On Christmas Day we drove over to the Lindsays and had a delicious turkey dinner with Christy and family.

After visiting with them, we drove on over to see Amy and her family.  Katy had just been wakened from a nap and not too excited about having her picture taken.  But hey!  We're into reality, right?  Tell it like it is.  Don't sugar coat it.

It was a delightful day, seeing all the kids, enjoying the blessing of family.  God is good.